Buried relief

I was abroad, just got a room in a family home stay, after finishing my dinner, I topped up my mobile to call home. Didn’t know what to expect, but I finally got the news, it was shocking to hear it at first, I could barely focus or sleep, and at the same time felt this weight come off my shoulders.

On one hand it is a complex emotion but on the other it is a sigh of relief. It is because of that man, that my life has turned out this way, my father was never the guardian one expects, he is a mastermind of terror, abuse, that destroyed the family. Too many horrors to even put it into words.

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As I was looking at the video of a cult group, it reminded me of my dad, they both had the wide-eye look, both are able to manipulate others by speaking, create confusion and terror by imagining stories. Most importantly they felt the need to be the center of attention.

His game plan was to create chaos, target people to abuse and then make the abuse the abuser. My mother falling for the charming psycho is not a new story, her own diabolical side was only brought out due to my dads influence, thus both of them were partners in crime. He wanted everyone to take care of his needs, if others didnt follow he would torture them, he never felt the pain of others but only caused them pain. 

As I gathered back my thoughts I was glad that a hideous person was gone from this world. I felt this sense of relief from my mind while touring the whole day.

License to Parent

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There are licenses for driving, diving, flying, for professions like doctors, engineers, construction workers, yet there seems no license requirement for parenting. Society does not look at the importance of rearing children and marriage as a responsibility but rather a service. Ultimate cost of improper parenting and family union is being paid heavily by society.

Ultimate cost of improper parenting and family union is being paid heavily by society.

Now, I have wrote about the bureaucracy of public institutions and the complexity of the issue of even proposing a parenting license. Even starting to conceptualize the requirements, procedures, and measurements needed to give a license is a tall task. However, one needs to look at the true cost to a family, community, economy, nation and cultural aspects when measuring the devastation of childhood abuse.

Whether it’s the west or the east, one thing is for sure high IQ people tend to reproduce far less. A quick tour in parts of east london, inner cities in new york, or the slums of mumbai its evident that lower socioeconomic status means more children. That doesn’t mean higher socioeconomic status people are better at parenting, but by having less children they are reducing the impact.

In most cases, poverty means early marriage which is again the root cause of all problems, and then popping out half-a-dozen kids means more financial and social responsibility. A license will appearĀ to be a preliminary assessment tool to judge both sexes as well as for the family, and community to measure if couples are ready to start a family.

A license will appearĀ to be a preliminary assessment tool to judge both sexes as well as for the family

The same way one needs to have a license to drive, or to practice medicine it gives validation to the responsibility and duties that a individual needs. For too long, the economical, political, social community have not taken parenting as a serious ‘profession’, because the costs come in so many various avenues it has not been measured properly, but implementing right tools will reduce the impact on society.